ok so yeah remote starting heats the wheel still and I also tried it about 3 hours after shutting down from it not working all drive and it worked again, so there's that..
but here's a neat little trick I figured out that worked two days in a row now:
so I opened the garage at my normal...
following this as mine too has issues. has never heated if I precondition first even though the light is always on. seats always work. tried turning truck off, locking doors, and walking away til everything is completely black then going back and starting it again but still doesn't heat up...
I park in the garage with an L2 32A EVSE and keep my max charge at 80% and plug in every night over the winter. During the pre-conditioning phase it almost always stays at 80%. The odd cold night that was -15C, where my garage cooled right down to just above freezing, it 'prepared for the drive'...